Pastor W.F. Kumuyi, the General Superintendent of the Deeper Christian Life Ministry, during a recent video Question and Answer session at the church’s Sunday service from 1:25:30, shared a striking analogy on the importance of readiness in marriage.
A congregant had asked a question reflecting on a sermon Kumuyi delivered 15 years ago about a woman who entered marriage without the necessary “openings” to consummate it. The attendee expressed confusion, recalling that the Bible emphasizes that marriage should not be dissolved, yet questioned what happens if a marriage is entered under deceptive circumstances.
Kumuyi responded by drawing a parallel with the education system. “Let’s say you entered secondary school without being qualified, perhaps another person took the exam for you. When the school eventually discovers this, what do you think will happen?” he asked. The congregation responded, “Explosion… exposure,” highlighting the inevitable consequences of deception.
He explained that marriage, like education, requires certain qualifications. “If a lady enters a marriage covenant but lacks the necessary openings to consummate it and the husband later discovers this, it is akin to a student being found unqualified in school. The system—whether school or marriage—must correct the situation,” Kumuyi said.
He emphasized that consummation is an essential aspect of a valid marriage. “If the marriage cannot be consummated because one party lacks what is required, the marriage, in truth, has not been established. Correcting the situation means acknowledging the inability and addressing it accordingly.”
Kumuyi’s analogy resonated deeply with congregants, reinforcing the need for spiritual, physical, and emotional preparedness before entering the sacred covenant of marriage. He urged young people to ensure they are adequately equipped for marriage, warning that deception or lack of readiness not only undermines the relationship but also leads to significant spiritual and emotional consequences.
The pastor concluded, “Marriage is a covenant that God honors when His principles are observed. Entering without the necessary preparation is like trying to fit into a school or system you are not qualified for—it leads to failure and exposure.”
Kumuyi’s teaching highlighted the Biblical perspective that marriage is not merely a social contract but a divine covenant requiring honesty, readiness, and the proper “openings” for it to thrive.
