Leaving a marriage for another person is a major decision that can affect your emotions, family, finances and future. Before making such a decision, it is important to look beyond the excitement of a new relationship and carefully consider what you may be giving up.
1. The new relationship may not be what you think
A person can seem perfect when you are not living with them every day. Before leaving your husband, ask yourself whether you truly know the other man’s character, habits, values and weaknesses, or whether you are mainly seeing the best side of him.
2. You may be leaving one problem for another
If your marriage has serious problems, another relationship may appear like an easy escape. But unresolved issues such as communication problems, anger, trust and unrealistic expectations can follow you into a new relationship.
3. Consider the effect on your children
If you have children, your decision can affect them emotionally and practically. Think carefully about how the separation, a new partner and changes in their family life could affect them. Their wellbeing should be considered alongside your own.
4. Make sure you are choosing, not simply escaping
There is a big difference between leaving an unhealthy marriage because you have carefully decided it must end and leaving because someone else has made you feel wanted. If the marriage is abusive or unsafe, getting to safety should come first. Otherwise, give yourself enough time to think clearly before making a permanent decision.